If you are a fan of 90’s comedy, you may recall the movie “Groundhog Day” with Bill Murray. The entire premise behind this film is repeating the same day over and over again. As a mom of two, I feel like I LIVE this movie. The alarm goes off, run downstairs to get liquid fuel (STRONG coffee), kids dressed, kids’ breakfast served, lunches made, kids’ teeth brushed, shoes on then out the door. Wait, I just locked the door and realized I still am wearing pajamas-what the?!?
How easy it is to find ourselves in a rut that has us doing the same thing over and over again without stopping to smell the roses. I find it can be the quickest way to drain the happiness tank no matter how positive a person you may be in life. Going back to my new “journal” on happiness (see previous posts), a couple of lists involved naming things I am really good at and what gets me out of my head. What gets me out of my head? My goodness, just going to the bathroom without two children, two dogs and a cat would be a “get me out of my head” moment! But I did contemplate these two things and made myself step outside of my comfort box and really evaluate what I feel I do best and how that helps me “get out of my head.” Basically, I discovered how many of the things I felt I was really good at doing also helped me find that zen moment.
What really constitutes finding your “zen moment?” I thought about things that help me find inner peace and calmness. Yoga, writing, listening to calming music, those are just a few things I listed that help me become relaxed. You don’t have to sit and meditate to find zen. I really think the list was trying to make me realize what I do to find peace and quiet throughout my day. Tonight it was typing on my computer, drinking a nice glass of wine and burning a candle that smelled of sea salt and jasmine. There are a million things we could list on paper to help us find inner calm and sanctity. But why do we forgo such a necessity? Do we feel guilty for simply discovering what helps us become the best version of ourselves?
I also started thinking about how important it is for women (okay, men too) who work, raise kids or both, to find those moments that have us step outside of our crazy, busy heads and find a moment. Because doing so will help us be able to focus on and accomplish those things we are considered “good at doing.” Besides putting down writing as one of my better qualities, I listed being a mom as something I feel good about. Am I perfect, well, absolutely not! But I do try hard each day I open my eyes and see the faces of my kids. I don’t wake up thinking “man, I am going to yell and scream today at every stinking thing my kids do. Yeah!” No, I really do make a conscious effort to be the best that I can be at whatever role I find myself in for the day. Always a mom, but perhaps I need to be the friend who listens or the person to give someone a friendly “hello” at the grocery store. I feel by finding what gets us out of our head and helps make us realize what we are good at can bless the rest of the people we encounter throughout the day. It creates a sense of positivity and elation, something to be passed along to others around us. I never really thought about that until I was forced to write it down on paper.
I like the fact I had to sit down and really think about the things which make me who I am without someone else having to point it out for me. I don’t feel like I am being narcissistic or vain. I am simply recognizing the gifts God has given me as a human being on this earth and what I can do to help others around me who have other talents I definitely lack. It creates a sense of how we interact with one another in this world, no matter what role we have in it. Finding that zen in your day, no matter how short or long it may take, also helps you discover the inner self to make you smile and show the world who you really are in life. I challenge you to list things you feel you are good at and find things to help you get outside of your head. And remember to take the time to zen yourself out during a typical busy day or week. You never know, maybe it will be the key to your own happiness.
Cheers to you all today!